Showing posts with label how to be supermom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to be supermom. Show all posts

Saturday, February 09, 2013

How to be Super Mom - About Me



When it might only seem as a blog, to me this is the start of my dream. I have always been a big fan of crafts and cooking. When I was 8 years old I cooked my first spaghetti bolognaise following the tips my mother gave me over the phone, since she was at work and I was home alone with my young brother. 
Drawing, painting, knitting, embroidery work, candle making, flower arrangements, sewing and decoration have always been a huge interest. Becoming a popular “how to” writer is what I always dreamt of, and I had to pick a starting point---How to be Super Mom.
I would like to thank my brother for giving me the idea of starting my own blog, my mother and husband for all the support and my beautiful daughters for being the light of my life and my main source of energy. 
How to be Super Mom was created on May 2012, three weeks later I received an invitation to a TV interview to emphasize the goal behind creating How to be Super Mom. Few months later my blog was the topic of one of the most popular radio morning shows. Still, I consider myself at the starting point, and my success depends on your support. I need your comments and opinion on every article posted to get to improve my writings and your encouragement in following my blog and purchasing the e-books that will soon be published.

I include many articles about parenting, though my specialization is in crafting and cooking. But due to my main role in life as a mother, I had to read and research a lot and I would love to share with you all the helpful information that I have found during the past 5 years of motherhood.
My Facebook page is at your service; you can post your questions, problems and stories. Not to forget the monthly contests and valuable prizes.
Thank you for being a loyal fan,
Maria El-Aaraj
 


Friday, January 11, 2013

Super Mom Tips on Raising an Optimist Child





happy optimist child


The world we are living in is chaotic, traumatic and drives us to be constantly depressed and pessimistic which is a real damaging situation to our personality and to those among us. Every super mom would love her children to be joyful, cheerful, content and optimistic about current life and the future but we often lose control over the surrounding atmosphere and begin transmitting a wrong image to our children.
These are 10 methods for every supermom to use to make sure she is educating optimist life lovers’ children.
1.      Super mom’s warmth and affection – Giving affection and love can never be a bad raising habit. Letting your child feel loved and cared for is an essential part of helping him deal with difficulties. Failures in life are easier to take when they know they are loved.
2.      Constant Compliments- Complimenting your child for his achievements is a very good idea. Give them detail about what you are praising them for, like for instance: “Good job Nour for helping your sister out” or “I am so proud that you finished you lunch and ate all your vegetables, now this will help you grow up faster and stronger”.
3.      Monitor- Be extremely aware of what your child is seeing on television, the games they play and the books they read. A supermom should always monitor her children’s activities to make sure they’re not exposed to violence and bad influence.
4.      Be an example – Children will always look up to you and take you as an example so before teaching them to be happy you have to teach yourself how to be a super happy person, an optimist and learn the secret of seeing the good in everything.
5.      Support – Support and congratulate your child whenever he expresses optimism. Instead of asking him not to be negative and indirectly emphasizing, and on a constant base, the undesired behavior, praise his positivism whenever he shows it that will push him towards focusing on the desired manners.
6.      Accentuate the positive – When something bad happens, always try to find the good side. If bad storm cancels an occasion, find something fun to do instead. Emphasize the positive by commenting how you wouldn’t have had so much fun if the event wasn’t cancelled.
7.      Thought catching – Teach children how to do thought catching to prevent negative behavior. When something bad happens ask them what thoughts they had so they’re aware of them and can capture the negativity. Kids often have black thoughts without ever realizing it.
8.      Minimize failures – Losing a championship or failing a test may seem like the end of the world, but it never is. Parents can raise optimists if they are successful at minimizing failures by putting them into perspective. Point out that life goes on and there will be endless opportunities down the road.
9.      Stimulate success – Encourage kids with age appropriate activities they are able to excel at to promote success. Having unrealistic expectations only sets children up for failure, so make sure they’re not trying to do too much.
10.  Laugh – Laughter is the key. Teach your child to be optimistic by helping him laugh at in a bad situation instead of taking everything so seriously. Laughing is the greatest method in conquering a problem.

Wednesday, January 09, 2013

How a Super Mom Detects Vision Problems- 10 Signs to Watch for in Your Children



You may, as an adult, recognize when you might be having vision troubles, but a child could never know that as he thinks that everything that he is experiencing is the normal thing including a blurred vision. Here comes your turn, super mom, to observe your child’s behavior to be able to catch any sign of vision problems. An early discovery is very important, so let’s go through 10 remarkable behaviors announcing that your child needs glasses:
  1. Glancing – The most popular sign of vision troubles is glancing. Anyone who has trouble seeing will glance to try to focus better. If you notice that your child glances a lot take him to see an ophthalmologist.
  2. Rubbing eyes – Another super obvious sign to watch for is increased eye rubbing. Most children will rub their eyes when they experience fatigue, but if this begins to happen frequently, then it could be an indication of a bigger problem. Two potential reasons a child may repeatedly rub his eyes are a subconscious reaction to blurry vision or allergies.
  3. Leaning head – Supermom, is your child leaning his head a lot in order to see well? This could be caused by a muscle imbalance in their eyes that can be corrected with eyeglasses.
  4. Headaches or dizziness – Vision problems can cause headaches and dizziness. If your child complains of frequent headaches in the forehead area or is cranky after reading or watching TV, he may need to see an eye doctor.
  5. Sits close to TV – Does your child frequently insist on sitting in front of the television? This could be a sign of myopia that can be easily corrected with eye glasses. Myopia is identified when there is a problem with seeing things in a distance, so kids will sit closer to see well.
  6. Closing one eye – If you’re child covers one of his eyes frequently while watching TV then he might be suffering from vision trouble. Taking him to an eye doctor will spare him a lot of pain.
  7. Holds books close – Most children should be able to read books at a comfortable distance, so holding books up to their face is a sign they may need eyeglasses. If your child is a bookworm with her nose continually in a book, she may need a visit to the eye doctor.
  8. Problems in school – Quite often children who are having problems in school are facing these issues because of undiagnosed eye trouble. If they’re having trouble seeing the blackboard or reading they can become disinterested or even disruptive. Be sure to have your child’s vision checked if he is suddenly having trouble with school.
  9. Lazy eye – When kids have a weakness in one eye it will show up when they’re tired. A droopy eyelid or one eye drifting out of alignment is a sign of a lazy eye that can often be corrected with eyeglasses.
  10. Finger reading – Some kids will use a finger to follow the words when they read. This isn’t a clear sign they need glasses, but if it persists, there could be a problem. They may need the finger to keep their place when reading if they have astigmatism or amblyopia.
Most of the vision complications are genetic; mainly if one of the parents need glasses then his kids are more probable to wear glasses as well. Don’t go blaming yourself, my dear supermom, if your child was diagnosed with an eye problem. You had absolutely nothing to do with it, you could have offered him carrots at every meal and still he would have to wear glasses some day because most of the vision troubles are hereditary.
Routine vision screenings at school don’t always detect uncommon eye problems, so a visit to the optometrist may be necessary. It might not be amusing to wear glasses, but not being able to see is much more annoying than a pair of spectacles. Watch for these signs to make sure your child doesn’t have a vision problem that’s left uncorrected.


Super Mom- Every Mother's Dream!

When I was pregnant with my first born, all I wanted is to become the number one mom in the world. I wanted my baby to love me and look up to me. Looking at my belly grow, all I was able to think of is how am I going to be a super mom with all the responsibilities I have? Will I ever be able to create a balance between the time spent with my kids, the time with my husband, all the house chores and of course not to forget the time for myself?

I can never give up that time where I can get some peace and quiet for at least 30 minutes. I usually spend it knitting, carving, drawing, painting, reading, crafting and when I am awfully tired to practice any of these hobbies I turn on my favorite sitcom of all times "Everybody Loves Raymond" and I watch and laugh. So, will I be able to do that when I have my baby? Is a super mom allowed to have time for herself?

All these silly questions that kept turning in my head during my pregnancy and the early post delivery days  made me realize one, single and very important reality: a supermom is a happy mom. It doesn't matter if I can do it all, it doesn't matter if I can cook everyday, it doesn't matter if I can keep my house clean everyday what it really matters is being happy to provide my kids with a happy warm house. If I am overly stressed with all this non sense that I mentioned before I will turn my home into hell, and you all know how well, us ladies, can turn your lives into living hell whenever we stress about something. My kids deserve the best and to give them the best I have to be relaxed and content. And the first thing to stop stressing about is wanting to be super mom, stop asking yourself that famous question: "How to be super mom?", who cares! No one does believe me! Your kids will love you and look up at you no matter what you do; the house could be all messed up and they could eat mac and cheese every single day and still think that you're the #1 mommy in the world.

So cheer up, get this burden off, take a breath and follow my blog. My tips till help you become a stress free super mom, will teach you how to cook everyday without killing yourself, keeping your home as clean as it could be and spending a lot of quality time with your loved ones.